Sunday, February 28, 2010

Week 9

*For explanation of The Happiness Experiment" go HERE .*

I know it isn't very much time to work on last week's secrets, but I am getting back on my schedule. So I'll really have 4 to work on this week.

Last week's:
If you're not sure, guess positively.
Believe in yourself.

Secret #17
Don't believe in yourself too much.

"Believing in yourself means thinking you are a capable person, not that you will never make a mistake. Don't think that because you are a talented person you cannot learn from others or you should never be criticized or others want to know how highly you think of yourself."

I guess it's good that I get to work on #16 and #17 together. There is a line between believing in yourself and believing only in yourself. You have to know that other people can still teach you. We are going to make mistakes. That's life. Accepting and learning from mistakes is progress. If you turn people away because you think you have nothing to learn from them, you are going to live a very lonely life. Everyone has something they can teach you. Even children have things to teach us. I learn from my kids every day. So don't ever believe in yourself so much that you stop learning from others.

"In studies on married couples, a significant connection is found between rigidity in one partner and discord in the relationship. Where one partner is convinced he or she is correct and therefore not open to suggestion, the length of time disagreements continue is about three times as great."

Secret #18
Don't face your problems alone.

"Problems can appear to be unsolvable. We are social creatures who need to discuss our problems with others, whether it be those who care about us most or those who have faced the same problems we have. When we are alone, problems fester. By sharing, we can gain perspective and find solutions."

You don't have to face things alone. Even if you feel like you can't talk to your family or even close friends, chances are there is someone who has experienced what you are going through. And don't forget that you can always turn to your Lord. He is always there, just waiting for you to talk to Him about your problems. 

"The only thing that hiding your problems accomplishes is making sure no one helps you with them."

"An experiment was conducted with a group of women having low life satisfaction. Some of the women were introduced to others who shared their situation, and some of the women were left on their own to deal with their concerns. Those who interacted with others saw a 55 percent reduction in their concerns over time, while those who were left on their own showed no improvement."

You are never all alone.

Keep leaving comments. I love hearing about how this experiment is helping you in your life. 


Adam and Shari Crawford said...

I LOVE that #18 says it's okay to share these problems..... so many times I feel I need to be more tough and not talk about any problems. I guess there is a fine line between expressing yourself and whining, but I still think it's a great idea to share the load ;)