Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Week 17

*For explanation of The Happiness Experiment" go HERE .*

Last week's secrets:
If you can't reach your goals, your goals will hurt you.

Secret #33
Little things have big meanings.

"Tiny things-the tone of your voice, the exact words you use as you go through otherwise ordinary events- communicate volumes."

I have really come to realize this fact. Facial expressions and the tone of your voice can say so much more than the words you are actually saying. And even if that is not what you really mean, people can misread your expressions and tone and take it to mean something completely different. So you have to be careful. So before you jump to a conclusion about something that was said make sure you understand completely what was meant. And make yourself clear as well. Don't send mixed signals.

"Married couples who display sensitivity in communication--who recognize the power of subtle changes in demeanor--rate their satisfaction 17 percent higher than couples who do not."

Secret # 34
It's not what happened, it's how you think about what happened.

"There is no objective way to tell you if you have had a good life, a good day, or a good hour. Your life is a success based only upon your judgement."

I like this one. I hear a lot, "I'm having a bad day" or "That was the worst day ever." But really it's all in how you view it. Some else might have the exact same experiences you did that day and view it as a great day. It's all in your perspective. As long as you have a positive perspective (aka the glass is half full and the rest of that juice is gonna taste great) I think that any day can be great.

"Knowing whether someone has recently suffered a personal setback or personal triumph is not as good a predictor of how satisfied they are with their lives as is knowing how they perceive the causes and consequences of those events."

Little things have big meanings
It's not what happened, it's how you think about what happened.